SweetandSpicy

I'm sweet, smart and I love to laugh!!

I like to read, try new things, lay in the sun, dance in the mirror, laugh, smile, learn about other cultures and eat out at cool, small restaurants with character.

I love Islam and enjoy my religion. I do not like to be around others who try to take the joy out of my deen and make Allah into a scary, mean, punishing, unmerciful God.

I do NOT want to hear a million hadeeths about all the ways a woman can end up in hell nor will I whip out a measuring tape to measure your beard...if you don't have a beard, I dont care. Just have a smile on your face when you see another muslim and a salaam on your lips when you talk to me and those who love Allah and his messenger!

I'm cool but you have to make Salah and lead me in it..."aint no half stepping" in that arena. I struggle in that area at times so I need to be with someone who doesn't as I truly want to get to a point of excellence in my prayers and I need to be with someone who can consistently hold me to that standard via example and encouragement.

I enjoy reading, laughing and mispronouncing lines of old school rap songs. I sing off key and smile with joy at random times. I can do more than a two step and can definitely wap it up with the best of them.

I like eating healthy foods and have a great relationship with the products at Trader Joe's. Picking out veggies and fruit with my spouse is one of the things I love most. I rarely eat meat. I enjoy working out but not alone. Going to the gym with my husband several times a week would be great.

Finally, if you have issues with brown skinned girls with natural hair and round features I am not the one for you. Also if you want some big boned, thickums that ain't me either. I'm a size 6 in the summer and a size 8 in the winter.

I consider myself very attractive and its nice if you do too but cool if you dont. If you reach out to me and I dont find you attractive I will politely decline so what is fair is fair and I can handle the same. Just be honest and we will get along nicely. PS ill tell you my weight but not my age.

I prefer well educated, polite, African American gentlemen, culturally aware latino or white men who are not Pollyannas when it comes to race and socio economic issues in America. NO FOREIGNERS!!!

I NEED a man who can express his feelings about concrete and abstract things with ease and authenticity. He should be bidialectal in love; expressing himself eloquently in words and action. I absolutely do not want to be with an emotionally constipated man who has difficulty saying I love you and other awesome things like that to his spouse. If you like to receive sincere compliments and yet it rarely occurs to you to offer them please just click on another ad now. If you feel rationing out affection and putting limits on how many times one should hug their partner make love in a week is acceptable please leave me alone. A wife should not have to beg for or "earn" softness and affection. You should just naturally feel and express that to your wife.

I really dislike passive aggressiveness, sarcasm and mean spirited men who will say hurtful things just to win an argument. I really admire skilled de-escalators who have restraint & longitudinal thinking. I dig men who cry tears and not insults, fists or bullets. Speaking of bullets I'm all for a man legally owning his own gun.

I am looking for a man AT LEAST 5'9" tall. SORRY NO SHORT MEN! (Please have a friend measure you without your height enhancing cowboy boots on if you are not sure how tall you are)

He needs to have at least his bachelors under his belt. He must be a kind visionary with confidence and courage to deal with the world and kindness and compassion to deal with his family. He must be his own man and not need a permission slip signed by his friends or his mother in order to decide to whom he should be married. Family should be important to him, but they cannot run his life. If you honestly cannot put me first then leave me alone. It would be unfair to me as I would put you first once once we're married.

I want you to be as comfortable in a mosque as you would be at a business dinner or in the park at a free concert. (Unless the mosque is an unwelcoming bastion of ethnocentrism and misogyny, in which case I need you to be uncomfortable)

A rwillingness to do the two step and laugh at oneself is a must!

Maturity is so key here. Please be aware of time and place and have the maturity to withhold inappropriate jokes or comments at other peoples' expense...that is so kindergarten! That being said, I would love to spend an evening at home watching a comedy special...Dane Cooke and Katt Williams are hilarious!

No salafees, wahabis, nation, ansar, moors, shia, khemetic or others of that ilk. No recovering homo/bi/a/trans sexuals. No ex cons or former addicts. No unemployed or incompetent entrepreneurs. No misogynists or mommas boys, No sodomists or swingers. No impotent or low libido sufferers. NO POLYGAMISTS!!!!!!!

If you are not mentally, physically, emotionally and financially ready to fulfill your obligations as a husband please dont contact me. I will not take care of you or give up my right to be protected and provided for. I of course will fulfill my duties as a wife with happiness and humility (except when I'm on my cycle).

For the record I'm not interested in being anyone's girlfriend, wifey, co-wife, homegirl, right hand possession, temporary wife, pen pal, 2 year fiancee or buddy. I am looking to be someones lawfully wedded wife which basically means I'm gonna be your best friend AND we're gonna sleep together. Yay!

By the way...did I mention I am totally worth all this reading? Yep, that's right I am the complete package and am open to change and willing to learn about you and what brings you joy. :) I promise you this, if you earn my trust you will find me to be soft and sweet.